30 Ways to Show Affection in a Long-distance Relationship


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In today’s post, I want to share 30 ways to show love in long-distance relationships. I know that finding new ways to show love can be a little tricky sometimes, especially because of the distance, but is important that we try different ways besides saying (or texting) the good old ‘I love you’.

I know that finding new ways to show love can be a little tricky sometimes, but is important to try different ways besides saying (or texting) the good old ‘I love you’.

Do you struggle to find ways to show your love to your boyfriend or girlfriend while in a long-distance relationship? It can be hard, we rely too much on our phones, but at the same time, what can we do to make the relationship more special and less boring?

Saying ‘I love you’ never gets old and it is important to say it and let the other person how you feel; but, are there other ways to show your love? Of course! And it’s not hard. Also, you don’t need to spend a lot of money on that. Yes, gifts are the second-best option and it’s a great way to start, but shipping something can be expensive depending on where your significant other lives.

Just take a look at these 30 ways to show love in long-distance relationships! It can help you to get more ideas!

Saying ‘I love you’ never gets old and it is important to say it and let the other person how you feel; but, are there other ways to show your love? Of course! And it’s not hard.

1. Order Them Food

Treat your significant other with a delivery of his favorite food. Maybe you can even send lunch to his workplace. That’s always a nice touch and shows how much you love him/her, without saying it. Now there are so many ways to do it! Uber Eats is a great app to start. The best thing is that the app is available is in many countries! Just make sure to set it up the right way so it will show you the restaurants around your boyfriend or girlfriend.

2. Ask How Their Day Was…

…And how he is feeling! This is such an important question to make, and you should never assume your loved one is doing fine if they don’t tell you otherwise. Sometimes you need to push them a little. Especially because you can’t talk to each other in person. It can be hard to know if they are being honest or just trying to avoid a problem.

This shows you care and you are there for them.

3. If They Have Problems, Ask What Can You Do

You might not be able to help because of the distance, but you can offer different ways to give a hand. Maybe they need someone to talk to. The point is… offer solutions! Even though you can’t do it yourself, maybe he or she can a find someone who can do it.

4. Send A Care Package

Care packages are the best. You put together a box or basket full of their favorite things and that will show how much you know them. It makes it extra special!

I know that if your significant other lives abroad, that option is too expensive, but you can always simplify it and send something smaller. In the end, the important thing is the intention. Every year I send my boyfriend a postcard (with Ink Cards) to my boyfriend for Christmas. Is not something big, but he knows the importance of the detail.

Another option for couples in an international long-distance relationship is to look online on different websites that do deliveries in the country the person lives. For example, if your boyfriend lives in Australia and you are in the US, look for companies in Australia that deliver gifts. That way you can save the international shipping.

Or you can go directly to Gift Baskets Overseas and look all the option they have. They send gifts everywhere in the world!

5. Don’t Forget to Text ‘Good Morning’ And ‘Goodnight’

This is a classic and you should never skip it. Yes, here and there you can forget because you have many things on your head or maybe you were just too tired to text. That can happen and you shouldn’t feel guilty if you do it, but have in mind that it shouldn’t happen a lot. Remember that the other person doesn’t know what are you currently doing and you can’t see him or her the next day to go out and do things together.

The little things make a big difference. Let your significant other knows! Also, how nice is to wake up to a good morning text? Knowing that’s one of the first things the other person makes once they wake up is a great feeling. You are a priority and so are they!

6. Try to Plan A Surprise Visit

I know that sometimes is not possible, but try to make it happen! Maybe just change the arrival day and surprise him a few days before the ‘real’ date. This is the kind of surprise everyone wants once in their life. How amazing is it to see the person you love when you aren’t expecting it? So romantic!

7. Talk About Physical Touch

This is one of the hardest parts of a long-distance relationship. You can’t be next to significant other whenever you want, you can’t kiss him or sleep next to him at night. It is hard. So, it can be nice if you could talk about that. What I mean is, tell him how much you wish you were together, how you wish you could put your arms around him. Talk about the times you have been together.

You can go to the next level too, but in my opinion is not necessary. If you don’t feel comfortable with dirty talk, just keep it as far as you are willing to go.

8. Video Chat At Least Once A Week

Texting is faster and easier. I know. It can be frustrating trying to video chat and at the same time, your Wi-Fi starts acting up so you end up frustrated instead of happy because you get to see your boyfriend for a few minutes. It happens to everyone. That’s why if it’s a big deal for you, just try to do it once a week.

It’s so nice to talk in front of a person instead to just look at your phone the whole time. You can see their faces and see for yourself if they are okay. It changes the dynamic and it’s a nice change.

9. Send Videos

Pretty much every social media app has the option to send short videos. Instagram is my go-to when I want to do it. Have fun with that and be creative. You can do it throughout the day to show him your daily tasks or a longer one of you singing or being silly. Tell him or her how much you love them! It’s more special when you can hear it and look at the person you love at the same time.

10. Ask About Their Day

A very important thing you should do every day is asking this. Some people need to hear this question before they can open and share what’s going on with their lives. Also, is something you should love to hear.

I always ask my boyfriend how his day was. He normally answers with one word to describe the day. It makes me remember those times my mom would ask ‘how school was’ and I would answer ‘fine’. So communicative, right? If that happens a lot just start a new conversation or ask more questions. Most likely that something happens and they want to share but they are too tired to do it.

11. Make A Playlist

Create a playlist on Spotify or YouTube with the songs that are important in your relationship or with those songs that have been part of simple moments in your life together.

I created one with the songs that have been playing on our dates and the ones that make me think about him. When I miss him, I listen to that playlist and it brings me back to those happy memories. That’s very special!

12. Tag Them on Funny Videos or Memes

Nothing says more ‘I’m thinking about you’ than tagging your loved one in videos and memes all over social media. It sounds stupid, but if you take time to tag someone on a meme is because you want the other person to laugh as well or maybe because it made you think about them.

It’s like saying: ‘Here, watch this video of a puppy falling down the stairs because I know that makes you laugh’ The person knows what makes you laugh, and that says a lot.

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13. Trust Your Partner…

…And let him know you do. It’s an amazing feeling to know that the person you love has your heart and it won’t do it anything on purpose to break it. That no matter what, you know everything will be fine because you are together in each other’s head and nothing (and no one) can break that.

14. Send Voice Messages Throughout the Day

Sometimes I get lazy and I avoid texting, so instead, I send voice messages without realizing that is even more special to do it here and there. Like I said, we get too used to text that we forget to change the ways to communicate with each other. I love listening to my boyfriend’s voice telling me ‘I love you’. Being able to actually hear it, makes me really happy.

15. Listen to What They Have to Say

Listening is a good way to show love in long-distance relationships. Most likely, you are his best friend as well; and when something important happens, you are the first person to know. When they are sad, they will want to be in contact with you. I know that sometimes time difference can be complicated when you want to get in touch with your boyfriend intimately, but there are always ways to make it work.

Just make time to listen, and even though you might be busy, is important that you understand how to balance everything. Remember that you can’t see each other whenever you want, and it’s important for them to know you are available when they need you.

Tag Them on Funny Videos Or Memes

16. Tell Them How Much You Miss Them…

…and also try to show it. I know it can be hard to show it, but try to find ways that your actions or what you say let them think that you miss them. For example, you can print pictures of you together to have them in your room or use a picture of your boyfriend as your phone wallpaper.

I tell him cheesy things like, ‘I have your picture here because that way I can see you every day and sometimes I even kiss it. I really miss you.’ Those sweet words can make a difference.

17. Send Him A Gift You Both Can Enjoy

It can be tickets for a concert or something more intimate. Whatever you pick he will love, especially because it means that you have to be together to do it. Getting excited over things that will happen soon always help to feel less sad over the distance. It brings hopes up when things get hard.

18. Don’t Ignore Him When You Are Out

I mean, I know you are busy with friends and you aren’t constantly paying attention to your phone. But also, you have someone at the other end of the phone who loves talking with you. People that aren’t in a long-distance relationship don’t understand the importance of checking our phones all the time. I’m not glued to my phone because I’m constantly checking social media. I just I need to communicate with my boyfriend.

So check in with him here and there, tell him where you are going, talk about what your different plans for the night are and just simple things. Just don’t go a whole night without answering. One, he will worry you; and two, he will feel ignored when we know is easy and fast to reply.

You don’t need to have a deep conversation at that moment, but a few sentences here and there should be enough. And obviously, let him know before going out that you won’t be answering fast because you will go out with friends. That is very important!

19. Send ‘Open When’ Letters

What a classic! Open when letters are sweet and perfect for when you are just starting your long-distance relationship. The first goodbye sucks, so having something you can read when you are feeling down is a great way to lift spirits.

20. Make a YouTube Playlist With Videos

I’m a fan of funny videos and creepy videos. My boyfriend knows that and when we are together, we spend some time watching those videos. I think it’s a great idea to make a playlist with those videos you think your significant other is going to enjoy. It’s a great way to say, ‘I know what you like and I hope you enjoy this playlist that made me think of you.’

Don’t Ignore Him When You Are Out

21. Send Snail Mail

It’s more romantic when you do it like the old times and as a surprise. You normally expect bills and ads in your mailbox. Imagine realizing you get a letter from your significant other, instead of boring things. What a sweet detail, right? Surprises are the best, especially when they come from someone you love.

22. Be Loyal

It goes hand in hand with trusting your partner. Let’s be honest. You are human and loyalty is always a problem in long-distance relationships. So when you go out with friends, don’t forget you are actually in a relationship. You don’t know how many times I have heard ‘What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him’. Those people might be right, but it will hurt me as well. Is a shitty situation you have to avoid if you want your relationship to keep growing no matter how far you are from each other.

23. Talk About Your Future Together

There’s nothing that makes me feel more excited than talking about the future with my boyfriend. It means we are going in the same direction and that we both see each other together living in the same place. Even if it’s our imagination talking, it’s nice to make plans and know that we both think our relationship has no end.

24. Be Patient

Patience is relevant. Many things cannot be in your favor. Time difference, work schedule, family, and friends. It’s important that you can see above all those bad things and keep going. There are going to be times when you won’t know the next time you will see each other, that can bring stress into the relationship.

Be patient and positive. Things will work out.

25. Send Pictures Of Yourself

Do you hate taking selfies? Forget that! Sending pictures is important. Your significant other can save them and when they miss you they can look at them. I love looking at them when I feel sad and even though it makes me miss him more, I still prefer having them.

26. Laugh Together

So important! Couples that laugh together stick together. You don’t really need to have the same sense of humor. Being silly and laugh over stupid things is a great way to bond. I’m that kind of person who laughs over the most boring things, so is not hard to make me laugh. I enjoy doing silly things in front of my boyfriend to make him laugh. We have such a good time!

27. Digital Dates

This sounds a little weird a know, but when you aren’t together in the same city then you need to improvise. Video chatting can get boring so change places and make it a little different. Maybe watch a movie together, play games or eat in front of each other the same way you would do if you were together.

28. Discuss Each other’s Favorite Movies or Series

If your partner has a favorite series currently running, you could choose to discuss a recent episode that would add more spices to your frequent discussions. You could also talk about a movie you have both watched. This helps you stay connected for longer.

29. Remember Each other in Times of Financial Need

This is one of the most important tips to commit to heart.

Many relationship fail because the other half could not fully express their needs. So they rather keep quite than ask their partner for financial assistance. This maybe because they’re not willing to sacrifice their happiness for their needs.

In some cases you could observe that your partner needs help with money and you could help out without them asking.

30. Discuss What is Trending

Nowadays, several topics trend on social media.

Talk, gist, and laugh at the slightest chance without faking it. Talk about what’s in the news. Give them gist on things happening around you.

Just try different things!

So what do you think? What else would you add to the list? What are your favorite ways to show love? Let me know in the comments!

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