Everyone desires good relationships with others. If you are already into one, there are many things you can do, to keep that relationship alive. They are as follows:
1. Do not be prone to anger.
We live in a pressure-filled world, encountering angry people. And you can’t avoid them. It’s important we display a mild temper and deep respect, do not be easily provoked by the actions of other people
2. Speak graciously!
Anywhere we are, it is imperative to let our words be seasoned with graciousness. Whether we are dealing with friends, family and neighbours, we should let our utterance be always tasteful.
Appropriate speech is essential to good communication and peace, hence promoting good relationships. For example, if you are given an opportunity to speak on a topic matter, remember that it is only a privilege and not your birth right. Speak in a manner that shows high regard to everyone available as your audience.
3. Maintain a good communication skill.
It is important to know when to say what!
Good communication does not simply mean expressing everything you are feeling or thinking at any given moment. It is by high standard how you say what you say without unnecessarily causing rancor.
Uncontrolled expression of anger is a mark of weakness, not of strength.
4. Discreet in your speech.
What does discretion in your speech mean?
It means using your words to heal rather than to hurt.
Discretion does not mean, never expressing oneself. To maintain a good and healthy relationship with others, you must choose your words carefully when talking with people.
I know a friend who is not prone to anger but when he gets angry, he blows hot.
Uncontrolled anger can cause serious damage to our own emotional, physical, and spiritual health as well as others.
It will be wise to consider the consequences of our words, before, speaking even when angry. Ridicule, contempt, abusive speech, and hateful wrath are wrong. They can scatter precious relationships with other people.
If someone angers you, please get your own emotions under control. Take immediate steps needed to settle the matter.
The problem will continue to trouble you if it is not addressed kindly. Speak with the person about the matter with the goal of reconciliation.
6. Get your emotions under control before approaching others.
Be careful in selecting the right time to talk about the problems out with the other party. Meditate before speaking. Be slow in talking. Be patient in listening.
If you are still upset while you try resolving the issue, it will only make the matter worse. However, do not wait too long to settle the matter.
People tend to misunderstand your explanations when they are still angry. Regardless of who is wrong in an argument, if you cannot immediately bring peace to the situation, you can also reasonably walk away.
7. Show acts of kindness.
Always look for opportunities to extend hospitality, giving a present or gift wholeheartedly. You do not need to be extremely wealthy to donate to charity, even your penny might save a life. Give to the needy when you can.
Doing so can contribute to open communication, making it easier to talk things out.
8. Avoid angry confrontations.
Imagine you find yourself in a tense situation, it may help to leave the scene, hence giving your emotions time to be calm. I know a friend that will count to ten before takes any decision in any open confrontation. His reason was that whatever anger was building up in him during the cause of the confrontation must have subsided before he counts up to ten
If the one with whom you are speaking starts to get angry, make an extra effort to speak graciously as explained in the second tip.
Being aggressive in your remarks won’t solve the problem, rather it will add fuel to the fire even if it is uttered in a gentle voice. If someone angered you, try controlling your mood.
9. Forgive from the heart.
No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. Unfortunately, none of us is said to have perfect control of the tongue.
Many a time, our friends, family members, and neighbors may say things to hurt us. Though, they may not intentionally want to hurt us if you find ourselves in such a tense situation, what can we do?
Do not quickly take offense. Why not patiently analyze why they may have said what they said?
Ask yourself, why would this person behave this way? Perhaps, it could be that they were under pressure, not feeling well, fearful, or struggling with some internal or external problem.
Out of love, make excuse for them as to why they had done what they did. In that way, you can sincerely forgive from deep within your heart hence maintaining a strong relationship.
In one way or the other, we have said and done things that hurt others. We hope that they will freely forgive us too.
The point is, make it your goal to apologize quickly and to forgive without hesitation. Developing such an attitude helps to promote good relationships.
Make it your determination to promote peaceful relationships. Select an appropriate time to discuss Problems. Try avoiding hurtful things. Be forgiving. Let your emotions settle and find a good time to talk, hence resolving the disputes.
We will enjoy more peaceful relations with others if we apply the above suggestion.